An interesting read. I've spent most of my life pondering my lack of ambition. And while I agree that often those who grow up with little seem to have a drive and ambition to achieve MORE, I'm not so convinced about the people who have enough.

In the same vein, those who spend their lives at the top of the food chain are often driven by the competition of being "the best". Or at least better than their peers. So, in a way, they perceive that they also don't have "enough".

In my case, there has never been a drive to compete. In any way, shape or form. I've pretty much always had enough. Even when I was quite poor. My life has been more about finding meaning. More money (I've had it) didn't help. More stuff (had that too), also didn't help. Praise and accolades from peers or others. Again, didn't seem to push any buttons.

So here I am at 56, retired ('cause I have enough). I'm widowed with four grown children. They all grew up in a middle class world. Two of them are rabidly driven and ambitious. Two are rather spiritual and inward looking. The ambitious ones are driven by their outward facing competitive natures to achieve MORE. The other two are a mix, one is content to be a mother and have enough. The other can't seem to figure out what he wants. Me? I'm happier than I've ever been. But it was a real struggle for me to get here. Because the definition for success in today's world just doesn't jive with my particular outlook on life.

Success as it's defined in today's world is what is causing the climate change that may well destroy all life on planet. I think we need to redefine success so those driven people turn to pursuits that benefit the world instead of continuing to burn it down.

I think that one sentence of yours: "Especially, morally compromising things that I won't be able to sleep with." is the key to a whole lot of what we need now. I don't know how we do it, but I think it has something to do with an increase in the overall maturity of the human race. In a spiritual, emotional sense. And I think some of that comes from not being hungry all the time.

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