Both really good pieces. I've struggled my whole life with what is expected of me as a man. After my wife died I kinda just gave up and became who I really always have been. It didn't win me any friends among the powerful. But that barely mattered to me when she was alive. Afterwards, it ceased to have any hold on me at all.
I struggle now with addressing the issues without it appearing that I'm trying to steal the attention of the people most impacted by the status quo. I don't want to be seen as the white man grabbing all the attention away from the oppressed and thus making it all about me.
We are ALL oppressed by the system. Even if some of us enjoy enormous benefits just by our location on the spectrum of power that has been granted by our being white, or male or whatever other privilege we enjoy.
I don't want to be quiet but I also don't want to steal the thunder of anyone who has a much more valid argument (and most certainly a better understanding). I'm mostly blind to how it all benefits me (although I know for a fact that it does, in many ways, both large and small). But I most certainly have no trouble seeing how deeply it impacts the 90% or so of the world's population that aren't white males. I would like to learn how to amplify the voices of the oppressed.
I really do want a just world. Even though I'm pretty sure that world would cost me some of the privilege I currently enjoy. I'm okay with that because I believe the world would be a better place if everyone had a voice.