Coming from the other side of the dating pool as a widowed man, my experience isn't much different from yours. I gave up. I feel like being very happily married for 20 years left me unable to function in today's dating world. So many of the women I met seemed to have never grown up. My best friend (a woman) told me that everyone you meet online is really just the same person. They look different and they seem unique but once you scratch the surface they all wind up having the same personality.