I truly enjoyed this. If only for the reason that I can’t believe there are actually people who can’t read those subtle cues. It never would have occurred to me that someone needed it to be explained to them but then again intent means almost everything.

See, a lot of the time a woman is sending out “don’t bug me” vibes, she’s actually sending out “don’t bother hitting on me” vibes. And since I have honestly never actually hit on a woman (other than my wife or some other woman I was actually involved with) I’ve had many great conversations with women (and men) that were sending out those very vibes. Because, you guessed it, intent. I wasn’t hitting on them. I was having a conversation with another human being.

#MeToo calls out behavior that never should have happened to begin with. Treat everyone with the respect that should be accorded to another human being and not as some object and you don’t have to worry about being rejected. Sure, some people won’t want to talk to you but if you approach someone respectfully they will almost always return the favor and tell you to get lost in a polite, respectful manner. Alternatively, they might just surprise you and actually want to carry on a conversation once they realize your intention isn’t just to get in their pants.

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