I was recently the man in exactly this sort of relationship. See, I’m widowed. It’s been eight years but about a year and a half in I met someone, not unlike you. It took four years to realize it just wasn’t going to work. And almost right after that another woman entered my life. Someone who loves with everything she has. And I just couldn’t give her all of me. Because I don’t have all of me yet. I’ve finally realized that I need to just be alone for awhile. I loved my wife with everything in me. And when she died she took a huge part of my heart. It doesn’t matter how much I want to get that back, it’s just not there yet. So, I won’t be breaking anymore hearts for awhile. I won’t forget either of these two women who gave me so much that I couldn’t return but I also know they’ll never be able to forgive me for that same inability to love them they way they loved me.