I’m not arguing that it’s fair or good behavior. I was told by the last woman that it was emotional abuse. I can’t argue that point either.

That particular relationship was always fragile and co-dependent. We were both wounded. And scared. And we approached problem resolution from completely different angles. Neither particularly healthy. She was of the “if you can’t give me what I need I’ll find someone who can” type. That was a threat to me even though she was stating what she thought was a simple fact. It was enough for me to avoid rejection by leaving. No loving relationship folds up if everyone is getting their way. Somewhere, someone was hurting long before the end.

I’ve never left a relationship that didn’t have problems. People are different. They approach problem resolution differently. One person’s “I’ll bow out to save you wasting your life on me” is another person’s “emotional abuse.” Communication is key, but sometimes we don’t speak the same language at all.

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