It’s been 8 1/2 years for me. And yea, I did the “get back to normal as quickly as possible, I’ve got four kids to raise”. All that did was delay it 8 years. Now I’m feeling the feels and growing within it. Although, for me, I think I needed to cover it up for awhile anyway. It was too painful to face back then. That’s why I don’t think there is a “normal grief process”. It’s different for every one of us.