Maybe not fate or magic, but there is something different about a truly compatible relationship. I’ve had other relationships and when things aren’t right, eventually the relationship falls apart. Yes, it is work, but sometimes it just can’t be salvaged no matter how hard you try. The difference between my marriage and those relationships that didn’t survive is that I didn’t find my marriage to be hard work at all. The other two, we both worked very hard to keep together but in the end, we just weren’t compatible people.