Some of us who grew up without cellphones find the expectation of instant availability to be rude. My phone remains on silent for days at a time unless I’m on call. It’s actually possible I didn’t even see your message. I’m pretty sure my last relationship blew up because I don’t live and die by my cellphone. But if that’s all it takes, the relationship wasn’t strong enough anyway.

I have a friend also for whom I frequently don’t return texts for days or weeks at a time. She understands. Personalities are at play here too. I’m not sure it’s possible to make someone understand the difference if they aren’t the same kind of person.

father, motorcyclist, old retired guy who’s just a little lost on a blue marble corkscrewing its way to oblivion

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