Such a deep, thoughtful response. I have some thoughts myself.

I’ve had a couple of failed relationships since my wife passed away. This relationship began as a simple friendship, a long time ago. That element was carried over when the relationship grew.

There’s no lack of kindness, respect or honor between us. What has been the sticking point has been a failure to communicate. In a way the other can completely understand.

I’ve come to see that the common point in my failed relationships is me. I still haven’t successfully dealt with some of the emotional trauma caused by the death of my wife. But I am slowly discovering how it shadows me and what form the outcome of that tends to take. I’m going to see a different therapist soon. I think I have the seeds of a healthier me and thus a better future. Regardless of whether this particular relationship works out or not.

Life is too short. I can’t control the other side of any relationship but I can bring a better me to it. That’s what I intend to do this time. And in every future relationship I have.

Thank you.

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