Trust me, I’ll be the first to speak up if it’s important to me. People who have successfully negotiated long term, happy relationships come to understand that what’s life and death important to one partner may be just a big meh! to another. Sure, bring it up. And if you get back a “really, it’s just not a big deal”, accept it. If you can’t trust that then you have bigger problems in your relationship than you realize.

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