Well, yes obviously, both get to have a say. It wouldn’t be much of a functional marriage otherwise. The fact of the matter is though, if a woman wants kids and the man in her life doesn’t, it’s probably not going to be a happy marriage over the long haul. As a man you can decide you don’t want kids. You can talk about it also. But if she really wants kids, your decision is more likely to be one of having kids or losing the marriage. The resentment over you making her choice for her is never going to go away.

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