What a deep and thoughtful response! I’ve thought over much in the intervening years between Liz’ death and all the other changes that have swept through my life.
I ask myself often, “If I were to meet Liz now, would we connect?”. I’m not sure we would. We became what what we were because, in many ways, we grew up together. I’m definitely not the man who fell in love with her almost 30 years ago. So I realize, I’m not looking for someone who compares to her. I don’t even believe I’m looking for someone to fill many of the roles she did.
I’m a much more complete person now. Any relationship that might come at this stage of my life is going to be wholly different. I don’t think it’s possible, or even desirable, at this stage of life to hope for anything like “growing up together.” But I do believe a more mature meeting between two people can take place. And possibly a grand love can happen again. If it does though, it’ll be nothing like anything that came before.
Thank you Ruth, I really enjoyed reading your response.