You know, I kinda expected a bunch of backlash from my response. I’m still surprised it didn’t manifest. And no, it wasn’t a troll.

The truth is, women in their 40’s have seen just about everything. They’re absolutely right to hold up some standards and raise the bar. That said, a lot of people in their 40’s are single in their 40’s due to a whole lot of unreasonable expectations, men and women. It’s walking that fine line between what one can reasonably expect from a partner and what one should expect to provide for themselves. There’s a lot of truth to the line “you need to be able to love yourself before someone else can love you”. If you don’t enter a relationship as a whole person, you’re not going to find the missing piece in another person.

Two whole people coming together can absolutely be more than the sum of their union. I know it, because I lived it. It’s magic and there’s no other way to describe it.

father, motorcyclist, old retired guy who’s just a little lost on a blue marble corkscrewing its way to oblivion

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